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Loving People The Way They Are

2/13/2016

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Another a piece of my thesis for my DMin Project. Chapter 3 is my biblical and theological arguments. This is Part D, IIIb, trying to say that our goal in food ministries isn’t to change people, but to love them the way they are.
 
Solidarity with people who are different from us is unexpectedly difficult. Letty Russell tells a story of an African American pastor serving a diverse congregation where the majority of the power brokers were white. Over time the members complained about small actions of the pastor—like swaying to much in worship—and refused to take on big issues like racism and oppression. What she wanted was to create a church where newcomers did not need to decide to act white in order to be welcomed (Russell 155).

Similarly, solidarity with people who do not have enough food is a decision to look for ways we may have been asking others to act like us. We need to be able to accept people as they are, now, with all the quirks and idiosyncrasies and unusual behaviors they have learned on life’s journey, and with all the culture and heritage they claim for themselves. Popular discourse has created a mythology about people who need food—a mythology about childhood abuse, addictions, and mental health challenges when we are kind, and a mythology about race, class, laziness, and dependence when we are not. To sit with someone in pity, or in judgment, is not solidarity, is not actual love, and is not contributing to our mutual salvation.

“Salvation is not something otherworldly, in regard to which the present life is merely a test. Salvation—the communion of human beings with God and among themselves—is something which embraces all human reality, transforms it, and lead it to its fullness in Christ (Gutierrez Liberation 85). All of human reality includes of course the areas where we are weak and distant from God—but it includes all of our weaknesses, not only the weaknesses of people who live in poverty. Until we see our own struggles and shortcomings as ideas in need of transformation we cannot focus on the transformation needed by those living in poverty. We must love people exactly as they are, now, and see their gifts and strengths and joys as clearly as we see their challenges. Together we can be transformed; together we can be saved.

Russell argues that we need to empower women to be “as co-strugglers in the gospel” (Russell 95), I am certain she would accept me suggesting that people without food are also equal co-strugglers, along with those of us who have plenty of food. Gutierrez emphasizes that we may also have an instructive role—that of helping those without enough to see how our systems have created this reality of some with enough and others with plenty. When individuals blame their life circumstances on their bad choices we need to expose the systems that have made bad decisions for poor people to be catastrophic, while bad decisions for people with plenty are merely annoyances and set backs. Part of our work is to “make the oppressed become aware that they are human beings” (Gutierrez Liberation 154) or even better help them to become agents of their own humanity  (Gutierrez Liberation 155).

Many people who are poor already see themselves as agents of their own lives, but these are often the same people who fail to follow the restrictive rules of some food ministries. When we begin to see the humanity (and the divinity!) in the people who need food, we will begin to see the ways we are asking people who need food to adjust to be like us, and in response to that we will stop! The goal is a food ministry where people come as they are, and are respected for who they are, and loved as they are. Our goal must be to sit with the oppressed, even at the loss of our own social standing  (Gutierrez Liberation 152). We cannot use the fact that we have more things than another person to lead us to the erroneous assumption that we are more important than that person, or that we should have more power, even here at this food ministry, than the person who needs food.
 
​Do you know of a food ministry where people who need food, and people who have plenty of food, work together to create community? I'd love to hear about it! 

Gutierrez, Gustavo, A Theology of Liberation, History, Politics, and Salvation, Maryknoll NY: Orbis: 1988. Sr. Caridad Inda and John Eagleson, Trans. 15th Anniversary Edition.

​Letty Russell, Church in the Round: Feminist Interpretation of the Church, Louisville KY: Westminster/John Knox Press, 1993.
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Happy Valentines Day

9/20/2015

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(This ran in InCity Times February 2005.)

“Oh”, my counselor said, tapping her pencil on her schedule. “Next Monday is February the fourteenth. Are you sure you want to have counseling that day?”

“What is special about the fourteenth?” I ask.

“It’s Valentines Day. Are you doing something special?”

“Oh yeah, Valentines Day.” I pretend examine my schedule. “Nope. I’m free.”

Actually I think counseling on Valentines Day is a good idea. Maybe even a better idea than a DATE on Valentines Day.

In 18 years of a steady relationship, I’ve tried many creative ideas for celebrating this holiday. The first few years I just forgot about it. Like her birthday and our anniversary. I was consistent, at least!

The year I finally remembered the date I sent my partner roses at work. Of course that was the year SHE sent ME roses at work. The flowers she ordered for me arrived hours before the ones I had ordered arrived. And she used a gay florist. She still believes that I ordered them AFTER I got the flowers from her and suddenly remembered the holiday.

We did the “lets do dinner out” thing for several years, which means of course, sitting at the bar with drinks for several hours, waiting for a table, then having rushed, incomplete service at higher than the usual rates. That was fun.

Cooking at home is a possibility. But then you need a wife that cooks. We didn’t have one of those. And washing dishes isn’t my idea of fun.

And of course we’ve done the fight on that special day. “If you don’t walk the dog, I’m leaving. Oh, and here’s your chocolates!”

Perhaps the best Valentines Day was the last one. We just traded nice cards, and hers said “I’ll love you forever.”

She left the following July.

Oh yeah. I’m over it now.

So I COULD go on a date. Dating is good, right? Let’s see dinner out. Ewww. If it turns out to be the wrong person, that’s a lotta hours waiting for a table.

So, dinner at home. Ewww. If it turns out to be the right person I hate to scare them off that quickly.

Flowers? I think it’s a bit much for the first date.

A fight? Bad start for sure! Sweet cards? Hmmm. But what should it say?

My nephew is giving everyone crayons he made for Valentines Day. I like that idea, but he is eight. I’m forty-four; I think my friends would be worried.

No, that decides it. For Valentines Day I’m getting counseling. Anyone want to come along?

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